Chapter 1: The Power of Generosity

Every month, I seek out a book that contributes to my growth—both personally and professionally. This endeavor often becomes the centerpiece of my book club and mastermind gatherings. For May, my focus will be on "High Road Leadership" by John Maxwell, specifically leading the conversation on Chapter 11: "Don't Keep Score."

The idea of not keeping score resonates deeply with me. In today's society, tallying our contributions and comparing ourselves to others has become commonplace. We often only realize the negative impact of this behavior when we confront our own reflections. My goal is to examine this concept from both personal and professional perspectives.

Give Freely, Without Expectations:

When you offer your skills and talents to others, do so without the intention of receiving something in return. Keeping score transforms your motivations from being service-oriented to self-serving.

Creating Safe Environments:

If you are fixated on tallying your efforts, can you truly foster environments where others feel comfortable approaching you without the fear of being judged?

Avoid the Comparison Trap:

Opt for the high road by steering clear of comparisons and scorekeeping. Remember, comparison robs you of joy—make it your mission to serve others selflessly!

Own Your Unique Journey:

Recognize that you are one of a kind. The only score worth tracking is your personal growth. Aim to improve yourself each day, and that’s a score that truly matters.

Prioritize Self-Care:

Should you find yourself preoccupied with comparisons, it may be time to step back and focus on self-care. Attend to your physical, emotional, and mental health. Engage in activities that help you unwind, recharge, and maintain wellness, such as exercising, meditating, pursuing hobbies, or spending quality time with loved ones.

Set Personal Goals, Not Competitions:

Establish realistic objectives by breaking larger aspirations into smaller, achievable tasks. Acknowledge your progress along the way and adapt your goals as necessary. This approach will help you maintain focus on your own journey rather than competing with others.

By releasing the habit of keeping score, you allow yourself to concentrate on the positives, cultivate gratitude, and identify the silver linings in difficult times. An optimistic mindset can bolster your resilience when faced with challenges. It all begins with the shift in perspective: "Don't Keep Score."

Research indicates that Sundays often trigger anticipatory anxiety. To address this, I initiated discussions and tools through Stay In Purpose Sundays (SIPS). This platform empowers individuals to become their best selves every Sunday and beyond. Despite challenges and anxiety, I believe everyone is capable of achieving greatness.

I invite you to delve into the enriching realm of positive psychology and discover how it can uplift your life and well-being. Together, we will explore happiness, resilience, and personal development, unearthing practical strategies to foster a positive mindset and thrive in various aspects of life. Join me on this inspiring journey!

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Chapter 2: The Impact of Keeping Score

This video titled No One Ever Wins | Don't Keep Score in Relationships delves into the detrimental effects of scorekeeping in relationships, emphasizing the importance of unconditional giving and emotional connection.

The video Stop Keeping Score in Your Relationships further explores how maintaining a tally in interpersonal dynamics can undermine genuine connections and foster resentment.