Energy Management Techniques

During our initial years as immigrants, I would often experience episodes during trips back to the Philippines. The mix of homesickness and overwhelming joy would trigger manic phases. I recall a moment when, amidst laughter with my cousins, my son gently told me:

“Mama, you’re laughing too loud. Can you keep it down?”

His words acted as a reset button, prompting me to respond:

“Thank you for letting me know; I’ll calm down. I’m sorry if I embarrassed you.”

Since then, I've made it a practice to check my energy levels throughout the day. This mindfulness helps me recalibrate if I seem overly energetic to others.

On school days, when my son returns home, it sometimes conflicts with my work meetings. To manage this, I’ve marked that hour as “Busy” in my work calendar, ensuring I can focus on my role as a mom.

Gradually, I established this boundary, and my colleagues became accustomed to my need to step away. During that time, I transform into a math tutor, an essay proofreader, a snack provider, and finally, a dishwasher for his lunch container.

Once he’s settled, I can shift back to work mode. This balance allows me to fulfill both responsibilities effectively.

There are tough days when I can’t manage both roles. I explain to my child:

“I’m currently at a negative 20 out of 100 energy level, and I need your help with chores. Can you assist me?”

He responds with understanding, often checking in:

“How’s your energy level now? Is it better?”

Regularly assessing my energy helps maintain equilibrium, as recognizing my highs and lows allows for proactive management of my condition. This self-awareness fosters stability and creates a more predictable environment for my child.

Maintaining Open Dialogue About Mental Health

When my son was eight, I shared my experiences with hospitalization. It was emotional for him, and I did my best to comfort him. Since that day, he has been open about asking questions regarding what happened and how we can prevent future episodes. I always emphasize three key points:

1. Prioritize sleep!
2. Be mindful of emotions, especially during stressful times.
3. Seek support from family or professionals if things don’t improve.

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Being transparent about my bipolar disorder enables him to understand my condition better. On days when I feel particularly low, I might stay in bed for extended periods. He respects my space, knowing I will eventually recover.

Discussing mental health at home nurtures understanding within the family and empowers children to prioritize their well-being by learning self-care strategies, such as maintaining healthy sleep patterns and managing stress.

This reassures me that having bipolar disorder does not inevitably mean I will pass it on to my child.

Creating a Nurturing Home Environment

“Mom, do you need a tall hug?” he asks.

When I reply, “Yes, please!” he climbs onto the center table to reach me, and we share a warm embrace. It’s always he who releases first, not me.

Research suggests that a 20-second hug can elevate your mood, and I can attest to its effectiveness!

We express our affection through hugs, verbal affirmations of love, and playful kisses as he boards the school bus in the morning. These small gestures significantly impact how a child feels.

Gratitude plays a vital role in our lives as well. Acknowledging and appreciating what we have fosters a kind and loving home, which is essential for a child's sense of security and happiness.

While parenting with bipolar disorder presents challenges, it is not unmanageable. Through self-awareness, open communication, and nurturing relationships at home, parents can cultivate a safe environment where children learn resilience.

Remember, having bipolar disorder does not define your capacity to be a loving, caring, and responsible caregiver.

Thank you for taking the time to read this!

Always remember that support, assistance, and guidance are available. You are never alone, and you’re not meant to face challenges by yourself.

With warm regards,

Mae