Living Better: The Key to a Respectful Legacy
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Understanding Death's Double Standard
When we lose someone, we often hear phrases like, “He will be missed…” or “Loved by family and friends…” These sentiments are commonplace at funerals. Mourners step up to share how much the deceased, perhaps Johnny or Grampa, influenced their lives positively.
However, there are instances where the truth about these individuals is far less flattering. Johnny might have been a notorious jerk, or Grampa could have harbored dark secrets. If these truths were voiced while they were alive, they would likely face intense backlash. Why, then, do we let them escape scrutiny once they’ve passed?
In death, they seem to receive an unwarranted pardon. Their lives are glossed over with praise, while the reality could suggest they were among those who might deserve criticism rather than accolades.
When someone finally decides to reveal the unvarnished truth about the deceased’s character, they often face severe backlash. Statements like, “Don’t speak ill of the dead,” or, “Why didn’t you say this when he was alive?” are common responses.
Section 1.1 The Unspoken Truth
When is it permissible to speak negatively about those who have passed? Why is it considered taboo to acknowledge that someone was, say, a bigoted individual, just because they've died? It seems unfair that the deceased receive this kind of preferential treatment, especially when some were genuinely harmful figures whose absence might even improve the world.
Instead of allowing this culture of silence, we should encourage people to live lives that they wouldn’t mind being discussed after their passing. Imagine a game show titled, “This Was Your Life: Extreme,” where the truth is laid bare for all to see.
Subsection 1.1.1 The Importance of Integrity
There’s certainly a time and place for discretion. Some may not have been privy to the darker aspects of a person’s life, and they may not wish to hear about it. Even after the grave is sealed, there’s often an unspoken obligation to maintain respect for the deceased.
However, if you wish to avoid negative comments about yourself after you pass, lead a life that warrants praise. Treat others with kindness and strive to foster understanding rather than division.
Section 1.2 The Balance of Good and Bad
Everyone carries both light and darkness within them. We are all the antagonist in someone’s narrative, yet we can take steps to shape how we are remembered. If you commit to doing no harm, you’ll likely avoid the risk of posthumous criticism.
If you find this challenging, don’t be surprised if someone decides to disrespect your memory once you’re gone.
Chapter 2 Embracing Your Worth
In the music video "Anne Wilson - Sunday Sermons," the artist reflects on the themes of life and legacy, emphasizing the importance of living with purpose and integrity.
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Keep striving to be the best version of yourself. Remember, regardless of your situation, you deserve love. Don't let anyone convince you otherwise.
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