Embracing Authenticity: The Journey to Self-Acceptance
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Chapter 1: The Challenge of Visibility
For years, I contemplated sharing my thoughts on Medium, yet I repeatedly hesitated. The irony of this resistance is hard to ignore, especially since I've actively participated in a vibrant online community with over 3,000 members for 877 consecutive days without interruption.
What finally propelled me past my barriers to visibility was a recollection of how I overcame my initial fear of publishing my first daily entry nearly three years ago.
Stay Present in the Moment
Initially, I focused on minimizing concerns about how my work might be received. Instead of imagining myself under glaring stage lights, seeking approval from an unseen audience, I treated my writing as a personal endeavor. I also pushed aside any inflated expectations before they could manifest into overwhelming obstacles. This approach allowed me to view writing as a mindfulness practice, emphasizing the importance of the present moment without grand plans for the future.
At that time, my computer's hard drive resembled a graveyard of abandoned creative ideas—unfinished novels, scripts, articles, and business concepts lay dormant, either forgotten or left incomplete. The fear of rejection had stifled my creativity, giving life to these half-formed ideas as if they were restless spirits haunting my digital workspace.
I made a conscious decision not to dwell on my past publications but rather to focus on a forward-moving practice. It was crucial to allow myself to relax and not take everything—especially myself—too seriously. Self-expression should be an enjoyable endeavor.
Finally, I committed to writing about whatever thoughts emerged, adhering to no strict guidelines, other than expressing daily gratitude. While this seemed manageable on paper, the true test arose on emotionally challenging days. Thus, my writing transformed into an experiment—an exploration of whether I could find a lesson in each experience that nudged me closer to self-acceptance. If this journey resonated with my readers, that would be an added bonus.
Don't Overthink, Just Write
As I prepared to share my thoughts here, I found myself engaging in a behavior I typically avoided: revisiting my past entries in search of inspiration. This led me to procrastinate and create excuses to postpone my goal. It dawned on me that I was reliving the same overthinking trap I had escaped on Day 1 of my writing journey.
When you overanalyze, writing becomes a daunting task, and you may experience a kind of stage fright. You start feeling self-conscious and disconnected from your authentic self, leading to a sense of fraudulence and paralysis. To combat this, I wrote “Don’t Think. Do.” in bold red lipstick on my bathroom mirror, a reminder I found empowering. My partner’s understanding kiss the next morning affirmed the message.
Interestingly, my previous community of 3,000 members—who I feared would ridicule my words—had unexpectedly become a comforting space, reinforcing my determination to branch out and publish beyond it.
Through this process, I rediscovered a vital lesson: authentic self-expression requires embracing who you are without the fear of judgment. There is no right or wrong way to be yourself. What matters is your commitment to being you and finding the value—and perhaps joy—in that journey.
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