Section 1.1: Stand-Up Comedy

Rather than joining Toastmasters, which many opt for to conquer the fear of public speaking, I decided to tackle my anxiety head-on by enrolling in a stand-up comedy class. Although initially terrified, I thought that if I could manage a 10-minute performance without any witnesses, I could face any challenge.

Performing stand-up comedy was transformative for my self-assurance. The experience of standing alone on stage, with the audience waiting for laughter every few seconds, was uniquely daunting yet rewarding. The immediate feedback on my performance taught me to adapt quickly, fostering a sense of confidence that extended beyond the stage.

The first video, "This Builds Real Confidence that Drives Women Wild," discusses how humor and vulnerability can enhance your confidence in various social situations.

Section 1.2: Posing as a Nude Statue

In Orange County, CA, many believe that the most self-assured individuals are those who participate in the Pageant of the Masters, where live models recreate famous artworks. I was fortunate to be chosen for this role, posing as a nude statue in front of an audience of 2,600 people.

Being scrutinized while completely exposed taught me to embrace vulnerability. Accepting that judgment from others is inevitable allows one to reclaim their power, which is an essential aspect of confidence.

Section 1.3: Roller Derby

My foray into roller derby was both frightening and exhilarating. As a slender individual surrounded by larger competitors, I faced the challenge of being knocked down repeatedly. However, with every hit, I learned that I could withstand adversity, which significantly bolstered my confidence.

The bruises I received became symbols of my bravery, a conversation starter at work, and a testament to my resilience.

Section 1.4: Wearing Thong Bikinis at 48

Aging often leads us to prioritize comfort, yet I’ve found that wearing a thong bikini at 48 brings both joy and confidence. It motivates me to maintain an active lifestyle while embracing my body alongside much younger beachgoers.

Whenever doubts creep in about my age or appearance, I remind myself of Teri Cole Whitaker's wise words: "What you think about me is none of my business." This mindset serves as my shield of confidence.

Section 1.5: Taking an Improv Class

Within minutes of my first improv class, I was thrust onto the stage to come up with a rhyming line for “I once partied with Obi Wan Kenobi.” The challenges escalated from there, pushing me far out of my comfort zone.

These experiences taught me to think quickly and adapt, reinforcing my belief in my own abilities. Surviving the embarrassing moments not only made me stronger but also instilled a sense of resilience in my confidence.

Section 1.6: Trash Talking at a Golf Course

I once made the mistake of trash-talking a group of men at a golf course, which forced me to back up my words. Despite my initial hesitation, I found that embracing confidence—even when it felt forced—was key to overcoming self-doubt.

Sometimes, you must convince yourself of your own capabilities to unlock your potential.